The desire for pregnancy tickles you? Better to be sure of yourself before embarking on this great adventure. Our avenues for reflection.
5 questions to ask yourself to be sure
Before getting started as a baby, think about the motivations and the practical aspects.
- Do you want to have a child and then a teenager? This is what having a baby involves.
- Are you ready to move on from a life where you are always free to do almost anything to a life punctuated by the needs of a baby and then a child?
- Does a child have a place in your lives?
- Is your marriage strong enough to welcome a baby in good conditions?
- Do you have any reservations? If so, maybe now is not the right time
Why would I be afraid of being pregnant?
You might be afraid of being pregnant for different reasons:
- fear of losing your freedom, your carelessness, fear that it will disrupt your career, your life as a couple.
- fear of pregnancy, of gaining weight, of seeing your figure change, of giving birth, of suffering.
- afraid of reproducing patterns you experienced in your childhood.
Does age really matter?
Age does not matter. We are not all ready to become parents at the same age. Some want to be young parents, do not feel the need to have a stable working life before having children. For others, it’s the opposite, they want to have enjoyed life before, to have launched their career … There is no ideal time to become a mom or dad. If you feel ready to become a mother, by accepting the share of constraints that this new status entails, go for it! The right time is the time of desire.
Being a mom, all that implies
Being a mom is great, but it’s also a lot of work! A real job. This involves putting a child’s needs before their own, being responsible for someone other than yourself, sometimes giving up professional projects. You must also be ready to invest more in your relationship because it takes a little more initiative and time to enjoy moments together.
To make your choice of having a baby more comfortable, you can spend time with friends who already have children or spend a whole day from morning until evening with a mother and her baby or a mother with one or two. young children. This will give you an idea of how much work being a mom involves.
Let’s leave the last word to Benefit Descarpentries, clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst: “You are never really ready to have a child. The right moment may be when you finally feel ready to be upset, to put outstanding”.